But after more than twenty years of working with couples, I've come to believe that communication problems are rarely the real problem. Communication is often where the problem shows up.
Sometimes maturity is not found in deciding whether someone is entirely good or entirely bad. Sometimes it is found in learning how to protect yourself while still allowing another person to remain human in your story.
Because if nothing changes in how you show up, the relationship does not have to change. And sometimes, the most powerful shift is not in what you say, but in what you do differently.
