In his book, Take Back You Marriage, Dr. Bill Doherty discusses the research around divorce. For example, are you aware that research states that forty percent of couple that have divorced regret the decision? Now that is less than half of couple who regret their decisions, yet still many lives are disshelved due to an unnecessary divorce. In this book, Dr. Doherty discusses that for many people, they reach a point of pain and fear in their marriage which blurs their view of your marriage and leads them to using poor judgement regarding which path to take their marriage. He lists a number of indicators that you have reached this point. From his book he lists this indicators as follows:
In my previous blog, I gave you a few questions to ask in order to determine if your potential counselor is qualified to intervene in your relationship. In this second half, I will give you thoughts to consider on their particular methodology, or how they will approach your relationship. Some types of therapy work better for certain couples, and finding someone in tune with your values is crucial.
Here are some questions to consider: