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Harmful words. Secret texts. Secret lunches. Emotional Cheating. Affairs.
All of these situations can lead to a loss of trust between partners. Once a person realizes that they have acted in a way that has caused harm to their relationship they often don't know where to turn or what to do. How does one rebuild trust after causing so much pain? The research behind how trust is built is pretty clear. It takes small acts, one-by-one, over time to repair the damage that has been done. Finding moments to move toward your partner, instead of turning away.
In this video, Dr. Brene Brown describes the research around 'trust'. In it, she references Dr. John Gottman's research on building trust with couples. I hope you find this video helps you to focus on the things you need to do to build or even rebuild trust within your own relationship.
http://www.supersoul.tv/supersoul-sessions/the-anatomy-of-trust/
If you have taken some time to look around on my website, you may have come upon the information regarding Discernment Counseling. The goal of Discernment Counseling is for you and your partner to gain clarity and confidence about a direction, based on a deeper understanding of your relationship and its possibilities for the future. The goal is not to solve your marital/relationship problems but to see if they are solvable. You will each be treated with compassion and respect no matter how you are feeling about your marriage or relationship at the moment.
Those considering divorce but are not completely sure if it's the right path for them.
Those who want to give their marriage another chance even though their spouse is moving toward divorce.
Those who have tried couples/marriage therapy before, yet are still stuck in the same situation and are thinking about making a change to leave the relationship.
A relationship where there is danger of domestic violence
If there is an Order For Protection (OFP) from the court
One spouse has made a final decision to divorce and wants counseling to encourage the other spouse to accept their decision
One spouse is coercing the other to participate
I will help you explore one of three paths for your relationship:
Path 1: Stay married the way your marriage has been - No change.
Path 2: Move toward separation or divorce.
Path 3: Work on reconciling by committing to an all-out effort of couples counseling over a six month period with divorce completely off of the table.
Watch this video to learn more!
Research shows that couples wait about 6 years into an unhappy relationship before considering professional help. By that time, many couples are on the verge of divorce. In a study published by the Family Court Review, 30% of people going through a divorce said they would seriously consider reconciliation if it was offered by the court.
A new approach to therapy has evolved, called "Discernment Counseling." Discernment Counseling IS NOT marriage counseling. It is a structured process that helps couples gain greater clarity and confidence in their decision making regarding divorce, and allows them to be better equipped to understand their prospects for reconciliation. Below is an article published by the Wall Street Journal, discussing the benefits of Discernment Counseling. The Center for Relationship and Sexual Wellness is the ONLY mental health center in the region to offer this innovative process!
http://www.wsj.com/articles/SB10001424052702304023504577319623333618562
