sexual addiction

Struggling with Sexual Behaviors?

I often hear from people struggling with their sexual behaviors.  Here are some questions to consider:

1. Do you often find yourself preoccupied with sexual thoughts? 
2. Do you hide some of your sexual behavior from others?
3. Have you ever sought help for sexual behavior you did not like? 
4. Has anyone been hurt emotionally because of your sexual behavior? 
5. Do you feel controlled by your sexual desire?
6. When you have sex, do you feel depressed afterwards?

A positive response to just one of these questions would indicate a need for additional assessment, including a consultation with a CSAT. Agreeing with two or more questions likely indicates sexual issues that need to be addressed. 

It is important to find a counselor with specific training to treat sexual issues, as treating sexual issues is a highly specialized service.  Ask your counselor about their education and training treating sexual concerns. For more information and resources regarding treatment please visit

Evolving Research Suggests Trauma Post Sexual Betrayal

The 'Codependency Model' was often used by therapists in the past when dealing with the sexual betrayal of their loved ones.  Evolving research is starting to show that those who have suffered betrayal are actually suffering from trauma, which needs to be addressed appropriately to ensure effective therapy.

"After poring through the data, it has become clear to me that thousands of women and men are suffering deeply due to their partner's sexual behaviors outside of the relationship." ~Kevin Skinner, PhD

Post-betrayal, partners question their safety and worth in the relationship.  They find it difficult to fulfill their roles, and as a result find themselves angry and avoidant towards their partner.

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Can Pornography Become Addictive?

While our diagnostic manual has yet to classify sexual/porn addiction, there is a growing concern in the mental health field about the increase of individuals struggling with their sexual behaviors. The following video illustrates how pornography can be damaging for some.  If you, or someone you know, struggles with their sexual behaviors.  You can learn more at