Discernment Counseling

Are You an Angry Pursuer?

Are You an Angry Pursuer?

"You never spend time with me anymore!"

"Nothing I do is ever good enough for you!"

"You don't even want to be married, do you?"

I often work with couples that have one partner begging for a closer relationship with one breath, and then they viciously attack with the next. Or they will produce an extensive list of reasons why their spouse is lousy, while at the same time wondering why their feedback is ignored.

My Spouse Wants Out

My Spouse Wants Out

Has your spouse checked out of your marriage?  Perhaps they have made it clear that they are no longer happy in the relationship. Are all indicators pointing towards separation or even divorce? Are you begging them to go to marriage counseling, but they won't even consider it as an option?

I can help.


Some Tips for the Unfaithful Spouse Looking to Save Their Marriage

Some Tips for the Unfaithful Spouse Looking to Save Their Marriage

Infidelity is one of the main issues I work with on a consistent basis with couples. When they come to counseling, their relationship is already in crisis. The tips above are a good way to start repairing the damage caused by infidelity. Along with the author's 3 tips from the video, I also wanted to share my own advice.

Is Your Spouse Considering Divorce?

Is Your Spouse Considering Divorce?

Has your spouse told you that they are seriously considering divorce? It is not uncommon to go through a wide range of emotions, including: anger, rage, sadness, denial, and/or fear. When your spouse has told you that they want a divorce, you are frequently not your best self. Often, in a state of crisis, behavior can become binary. Either you completely disconnect from your spouse, or you completely suffocate them. You either deny that they were serious and hope for the best while ignoring the subject, or you do EVERYTHING you can think to convince them that you and your marriage are worth fighting for. It is important that you do neither if you wish to save your marriage.

Here are a number of things you can do if your spouse has begun to discuss divorce.

Little Known Divorce Research - Myth or Fact

Little Known Divorce Research - Myth or Fact

The decision to divorce is a difficult one.  People often talk to their friends or family members asking them to share their thoughts and opinions.  There are many ideas about divorce that are categorically false.  Because of this, I've decided to share some little known research regarding divorce that may help inform you or your loved one's decision.  If you are interested in speaking with a marriage counselor about your relationship, I'd love to help!