The decision to divorce is a difficult one. People often talk to their friends or family members asking them to share their thoughts and opinions. There are many ideas about divorce that are categorically false. Because of this, I've decided to share some little known research regarding divorce that may help inform you or your loved one's decision. If you are interested in speaking with a marriage counselor about your relationship, I'd love to help!
Dr. John Gottman is the leading researcher on marriage and relationships. He has become so in tuned with what patterns disintegrate relationships in his forty years of research that he can predict divorce in couples with 94% accuracy within 15 minutes of viewing their interactions. Time and time again, his research has shown that men's emotional intelligence (being aware of social nuisances and able to display deep sensitivity) can make or break a relationship.
As I frequently work with women and couples discussing their frustrations with a lack of information related to the changes women go through during their lifetime, I found that I wanted to write a blog dedicated to women's sexuality and to provide resources related to these topics. Since these changes affect both women and their partners, it is very important that they both are open to discussion. These situations can be as challenging and frustrating for the partners as it is for the women they love. I sat down with Kama Jensen from Conscious Living Counseling to discuss this important topic.
Are you looking for resources to help your relationship situation? Below is a short, but powerful list of resources.
Best Books on Marriage and Divorce
The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work by John Gottman. Exercises that you can do with your partner throughout the book.
Take Back Your Marriage by William Doherty. A down to earth look at marriage.
Hold Me Tight by Susan Johnson. Great book with exercises at the end of each chapter.
Should I Try to Work it Out? by Alan Hawkins, Tamara Fackrell, and Steven Harris. Helpful for individuals who are considering dissolving their relationship.
The Divorce Remedy: The Proven 7 Step Program for Saving Your Marriage by Michelle Weiner Davis. Helpful for individuals who believe their partner is in the process of leaving them.