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On the Verge of an Unnecessary Divorce?

On the Verge of an Unnecessary Divorce?

In his book, Take Back You Marriage, Dr. Bill Doherty discusses the research around divorce.  For example, are you aware that research states that forty percent of couple that have divorced regret the decision?  Now that is less than half of couple who regret their decisions, yet still many lives are disshelved due to an unnecessary divorce.  In this book, Dr. Doherty discusses that for many people, they reach a point of pain and fear in their marriage which blurs their view of your marriage and leads them to using poor judgement regarding which path to take their marriage.  He lists a number of indicators that you have reached this point.  From his book he lists this indicators as follows:

Who Should I Talk to About My Spouse's Affair?

Who Should I Talk to About My Spouse's Affair?

When you discover your spouse has had an affair it is absolutely devastating. Your mind spins. You rage against how your spouse could betray you and your family. You are dying for some support and empathy.  Who do you speak with?  Often people turn to those in their lives who are supposed to have their backs - their friends and family.

Some Tips for the Unfaithful Spouse Looking to Save Their Marriage

Some Tips for the Unfaithful Spouse Looking to Save Their Marriage

Infidelity is one of the main issues I work with on a consistent basis with couples. When they come to counseling, their relationship is already in crisis. The tips above are a good way to start repairing the damage caused by infidelity. Along with the author's 3 tips from the video, I also wanted to share my own advice.

Finding the Right Relationship Counselor Part 2

Finding the Right Relationship Counselor Part 2

In my previous blog, I gave you a few questions to ask in order to determine if your potential counselor is qualified to intervene in your relationship. In this second half, I will give you thoughts to consider on their particular methodology, or how they will approach your relationship. Some types of therapy work better for certain couples, and finding someone in tune with your values is crucial.

Here are some questions to consider:

Finding the Right Relationship Counselor Part 1

Finding the Right Relationship Counselor Part 1

When your relationship is in crisis, it can become an overwhelming task to find someone who you can trust to help. You are feeling hurt, vulnerable, overwhelmed, and are looking for a stranger to care for one of the most precious relationships in your life. When a marriage is on the brink of divorce or facing any difficult situation, it can be hard looking to another party for help. Many of my clients have never been in counseling or therapy before, and they frequently discussed their experiences looking for the right couples or marriage counselor for their relationships. Patterns have emerged from my conversations with them and I wanted to share my thoughts on the topic of finding your own couples/marriage counselor.